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Prepare for Revolt by atpeyog
December 17th, 2018, 1:11 am
Okay, so the playdate was a disaster.Oh for the good old days when the kids roamed free in their neighborhoods! Now, instead of socializing on the corner, children visit during "playdates," having friends over at appointed hours. It may just mean that the bathroom mirror is being colored with your new lipstick. Silence is not necessarily golden. Unless all is going well, try to distract little sister with a separate project or even a movie. It's delightful to see your little one share her favorite toys with a friend. Be understanding if the other parent doesn't offer to host the next playdate. Put the friend's things aside early on.

Prepare for Revolt. But let older kids play independently and come up with their own fun. It's a no-win. Parents' lives are so busy these days that they often don't have time to date each other. Let the other parent know what happened. Tell the kids what they can and cannot do, but keep the list short.

Tell all. Also, set a pickup time, making the playdate short and sweet, say around 2 hours long. Really? When? Set a date to keep the playdate ball rolling. In our house there's no playing in mom and dad's room and no jumping on beds. Two's company, three's a crowd was never truer than with small fry. With children are under four, you'll have to supervise and manage them closely. And these get-togethers are a nice Promotional gifts&toys Suppliers way to connect with other parents.

Avoid threesomes.

Set Rules. When the playdate goes well, mom and dad can also get a break as the children entertain themselves.

Let your child pick her friends.
Feed them. There's nothing worse than racing around to search for missing shoes while the other mother waits at your door, car running, toddler crying in the back seat.

*Opt out. Children may argue for most of the playdate but if it ends while they're having fun, that's what they'll remember. Rescue a flagging playdate by doing something silly, like making a yucky potion out of toothpaste, ketchup, vinegar and baking soda. Save yourself grief and ban these little exchanges. Popcorn, pretzels and fruit have resuscitated many an ailing playdate at our house.

Butt Out. These get togethers don't fit well into many families schedules. With toddlers, playdates are about getting the parents together, so it makes sense to target kids whose folks you like. Ask permission if you want to do something unusual, like take the kids swimming. Let your child stew, and engage the friend in a game. The other mother picks up her child, thanks you and says she'd love to have yours over. Don't take it personally. Guess what? Playdates are optional.

Note the info. I've played this game. And if they play at the park, you don't have to clean up afterwards!

(c) 2006 Jennifer Bingham Hull
. Especially early on, kids want to take toys home from other houses. Better yet, get her a playdate. It's better for her to hear the straight, bad version from you than a horrifying, inaccurate one.

Invite the parent in. Low blood sugar makes for lousy relations. Get the contact number and ask whether your guest has any food allergies or special issues. Show the other parent around. Kids like to test their powers when entertaining on home turf. Her daughter broke your child's favorite toy and then walked in on your husband while he was getting dressed. Check in often, though. Your kid will eventually join in. When children can be dropped off, however, it's best to consult them on playdate picks. Your little visitor may dash in the door and not look back. Your guest may act well while your own child undergoes a Jekyll-Hyde transformation.

But don't expect reciprocity.

Don't trade belongings. But if the playdate is a first, his mom or dad will appreciate getting a lay of the land. No sooner has one child agreed to give away her precious bear, than she changes her mind and bursts into tears.

Corral the guest's stuff. Kids can develop social skills in all sorts of other environments.

End on a high note. It's great when you can take turns hosting.

Take her up on it.

As a mother who has hosted playdates successful and not so stellar, I pass on tips to make your little meeting a happy one.

The bad news is that playdates can turn ugly in the time it takes to say, "That's mine!" With a few faux pas, it's also easy to alienate the parents of the small guest who attends the same school as your child.

The good news about playdates is that they help kids learn to get along.